MTV Shuga’s Guide to Good Sex

Straffing, pomb, or Netflix and chill – however you describe sex, doing IT can be fun, hot and enjoyable when it’s happening with the right person.

We all get excited. After all, we’re only human. But the Shuga crew have come up with some top tips for our fam on how to have good sex.

WARNING: NSFW

Top Tips:

1. SHUT UP AND LISTEN

Communication is key to all great partnerships. There is no ‘I’ in team. There is also no ‘I’ in sex. But there is the word ‘EX’ which is EXACTLY what you’ll find yourself being if you mess this top tip up. Talking things through and listening to each other is the best way to make sure you are both on the same page and doing the things you want to. Also, it’s a good way to find out what you both like, which is another added bonus.

2. Slow and Steady wins the race

Sex is most definitely NOT a race. Taking things slow has a variety of benefits. By slowing things down you get to understand how comfortable you both are with what’s going on. If you’re rushing full-steam ahead, you may not realise that your partner may not be digging your vibe, meaning that their enjoyment levels are hitting rock bottom. An additional perk is that you get to enjoy the moment for longer. It really is a win-win situation.

3. Do NOT have sex

This one sounds weird to us too. How can you have good sex without having sex?! Easy. Don’t, but do. Wait, what?
Sex, like an onion, is made up of many layers. Having sex can feel like a big commitment to some people. Not everyone is comfortable having sex for a range of different reasons. If sex is one step too far then you should respect that. But maybe you’re both comfortable engaging in other ways. There are PLENTY of ways to have fun that do not involve sex, but can be equally as intimate.

DO NOT TRY YOUR LUCK. Make sure you find out if it’s cool with them before turning on the heat. You might get burnt.

4. Get creative

That does not mean you have to create a ten foot painting of humanity’s most intimate activity (although that would be pretty cool). Instead, it means experiment a little. Sex can be really spontaneous, which can make it fresh and exciting. Yet, there can always be too much of a good thing. Same with sex. Why not plan out a night of lust? We’re all busy people and planning out a midnight romp, with a nice bit of dinner before, can take your sex game to a whole new level.

5. Take a test!

Usually, knowing you have to take a test involves months of preparations, hours of note-taking and countless days of reading long-worded textbooks. The test we’re talking about here is slightly different…

Getting tested and knowing your status, in regards to HIV or other STIs, can help you understand your situation and what precautions you need to take. Even if you have no known STIs, using contraception (especially a condom) should be a MUST.

6. LET’S GET IT ON

Safe sex is good sex. Always. Using a condom correctly means that you don’t have to worry about HIV, STIs, pregnancies, the lot! Make sure you strap up right and read our guide on some of the sex myths out there that may lead you astray. Hakuna matata shugafam. Hakuna matata.

A lot of people have sex, but not everybody has GOOD SEX.

Follow our guide and stay woke to a life of good sex and positive decisions…