Why Relationship Power Struggles Can Be Unhealthy

Love conquers all, and true love is very blind??
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I totally agree. Good read?

Awesome Girl, Awesome! I recently had to break off a friendship because of this. I've been in a relationship before where I had to do things I wasn't comfortable with too, to please the other person. But God knows not even in my next life. I really believe we should take our time in getting to know people rather than rushing things. Maybe then you'd notice the power struggle tendencies and back off immediately. I Like the flow of your writing. ❤

Dear Jesus, finally someone addresses this issue . A lot of women have lost their identities trying to please their partners, respect is a foreign term in some relationships . Some ladies don't even know they should draw a line, I think we need to constantly remind ourselves that we don't need to be in a relationship to be happy. Know your worth as a woman.

You always discuss important issues which people tend to ignore.. Relationship is supposed to be an icing on friendship and if I am right friendship is not dominance over the others...this topic has affected lots of relationships.. In my opinion compromises should be made but not at the expense of one's happiness...nice write up debola.

I hate to break it to you, but what people call "love" is just a chemical reaction that compels animals to breed. It hits hard, then it slowly fades, leaving you stranded in a failing relationship. Break the cycle. We are all fickle sentients. --- This is for humans that have refused to step up and accept their status as the most advanced creatures on the planet.

When it's not BDSM, even people who do BDSM have safe words to make the dominant realize they are taking it too far...
Humans just like to complicate the simplest of things since well simple is boring.
Everyone has excesses, but you're ready to accept and absorb because love was tin tin and the person has your mumu button. It's only being selfish if the same isn't returned.
why is this an issue?
People just dive in without having the talk but are all lead in the heat of the moment by how fluttery their tummies feel when they see, hear or talk to the person.. but they leave poor Lil Ol' brain out of it.
Understanding and love is all it is. most people aren't understanding.

Gerald's game ( a movie) kind of explains a bit here. two old couples go for an alone time at a beach house, Man brings out handcuffs for some BDSM... wife never done it before, but for the sake of their marriage and spicing things up, she agrees, along the line she's uncomfortable, she let's him know and he isn't too happy about it but yeah whatever.. oh well. poor guy had a heart attack and died on top of her. The end.

Interesting piece and this actually happens a lot in many relationships these days. I'm more concerned that it's "ladies" that are usually asked and taught to be submissive and accept all sorts of rubbish. Anyhow, regardless the gender, we should all learn to stand our ground, know our boundaries, no when comprising has turned to rubbish and also learn to be very considerate. Don't lose yourself because of any relationship. Nice piece, Debola. I'm now a fan . I need autograph plixxxx ?

So so true. You hit the nail on the head! I'm jst sick and tired of this believe that if a relationship/marriage fails,its the woman's fault.. meaning she was the one that failed. Everyone starts reminding you how your clock is ticking and how u should be more tolerant. The mata jst tire me.
Most comments below practically spoke my mind(kudos to y'all) but even in relationships where there were ground rules at the beginning, those ground rules can change at some point. It's possible to agree to A,B C at the start of the relationship and later, A doesn't seem so bad, u are guilt tripped into taking B sometimes and then u just keep sacrificing until, pkakam!, there's practically none of u left in that relationship!
IMO,itz not enough to jst set ground rules,b ready to stand by them thru and thru Nd even "enfore" by standing ur ground (not by violence biko). Of course, this is easier said than done and there will be compromises here and there..(that is if the love is for real anyways), but it should be both ways! That's so important,so at least,no one is emotionally drained
Then,try not to lose yourself. Dnt get too dependent financially,emotionally or otherwise cos this is wat leads to entrapment(psychology tins). I know relationships are there for mutual support and all,but dnt b too dependent. Stop being jst Tunde's wife/gf and start being Tobi,the real you.
These would make it easier to notice when you are not getting as much as you should in a relationship.
I know it seems I'm talking more to ladies bcos most times,in our society at least, it's women that tend to do this more..heck! They are even forced to sometimes. But truth is,it really can be either way.
Anyways,my Tori too dey long. Make I carry myself comot.
Nice work Debola

Well said dear

Speak up and lay your complaints you are considered a nag, keeping quiet ends up the wrong way also, well everything works out with the right understanding partner

Takes two to tango. In my opinion, the power tools that the two parties in any relationship should both yield are love and respect for the other party. You can't be in a relationship with someone and want to suppress them, that's military rule. Generally speaking, we need to allow people shine in their own skin, nurturing them where we can.

Finally, someone addresses this.
I just feel the pressure that accompany relationships is unnecessary.
Debola thanks for this.

Nice one, Adebola. Shake this skyscraper well so all ladies can fall from it.