Love Traps

“Sometimes a man has to chop chop around to appreciate some home cooking.”

Be honest, I’m sure you found that statement pretty funny in episode 3 of Love, Sex and Money. For those of you not in the know – Femi was talking to Leo about his illicit relationship with Miss B’have behind his girlfriend Dala’s back. When you’re not the one caught up in a love triangle – or a love rectangle as that became – it’s easy to see the funny side. Isn’t it?

Relationships that become intensely intertwined, lead to broken hearts, feelings of insecurity, and let’s face facts – in some instances, unsafe bed hopping. This situation, however sad, is shockingly widespread. According to some relationship experts, many of us have been caught up in a love triangle. Quite an unnerving thought, especially when you may not even be aware of it.

Even more so when you look at the physical and psychological consequences attached to swapping sexual partners and betraying life-long friendships. Let’s take Dala and Leo’s situation. What appeared to be such a loving relationship between the two was torn to shreds over momentary lust. Leo ending up in bed with the beautifully talented Miss B’Have and Dala sleeping with her boyfriend’s tall, dark and handsome best buddy, Femi. Initially these acts were by no means pre-meditated, but unable to resist sexual temptations the inevitable occurred causing heartache, revenge and a serious risk of spreading sexually transmitted diseases.

Love traps are selfish and the cage can be deadly. How many of us know somebody that’s turned a blind eye to their partner sexting other people over BBM or grinding with the opposite sex at the club? Isn’t this behaviour just one step away from getting involved in a love trap?

As a society, have we become peer pressured into accepting that before marriage, our relationships will involve a third party of some sort? It may not be physical, but with Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other social networking sites, it is much easier to covertly conduct in activities outside your relationship which involve showing another person a lot of sexual attention. There’s even a Facebook Page called ‘I wonder how many relationships Facebook ruin every year?’ with over 100,000 likes.

Of course we must all be responsible for our actions – but how do we curb our sexual enthusiasm in a time when sexual liberty is on the increase? What do you think?