Sophie's Diary – what is love?

What is love? Does anyone have a clue?

You know, when I was still at uni, I thought about love in two ways; love for my friends meant helping them through tough situations through any means necessary and love for myself meant making sure I had everything I wanted through any means necessary (usually through sex). Nice clothes, jewellery, flowers, expensive holidays and an easy lifestyle.

I still believe in showing love to my friends & family in the same way that I did before. I’ll always be there for them. But lately, I’ve had a reality check. Love does not equal sex for me any more. No, your girl Sophie so-fly so-fine isn’t turning into a hypocrite who is condemning sex, no.

I just realized that if someone loves me, sex is not the only way to show that and I don’t need to have sex with someone to be treated like the queen that I am. And more importantly, I don’t need to rush into a sexual relationship if I’m not ready.

Yes, I want my man to feel like his needs are being met, but not at the expense of my needs and my happiness. There is more to a relationship than just sex.

Right now I just want to be happy and healthy, inside & out. I think I finally cracked the meaning of self-love. Maybe I should change my name from ‘Sophie, so-fine-so-fly’ to ‘Sophie sophisticated’. ??